Candid talk, Millennial Life


authentic, be you, be bold, fear of being alone


Is there an interconnectedness between living boldly and being authentic? I ask myself this question a lot recently. Mainly because of how often I process personal thoughts about moments that have turned full circle for me as a young woman. Are these factors interlinked because they are integral parts of being a whole person (woman)? Could it be that living boldly and being authentic is vital for to lead a good life without compromising fancy, freedom or rights? If the answer to this questions is more affirmative than negative. Why do we let ourselves shrink to fear and the pressure of being judged?

Personally and in my experience as a blogger, authenticity is a word that guides me to elevate and sometimes restrain. As restraint to weaken whatever need I have to bid the acceptance of others by diluting myself to appeal to them. My entire life, even as a little girl, I was regularly singled out or seen as the daring, feisty and weird one. The kind of kid who was extremely curious and never just took things because someone said that is the way by which it works. I needed to see the reason(s) why.  Not really to contradict but to learn and understand.

Fortunately, my mom allowed this part of me to flourish. Of course, there were times when she’d smack me for being too forward. However, I’m glad that she allowed me the opportunity to make sense of things by being me. I learned early to stand up for what I believe.

I’m a grown-up now but, I find that these traits are still trailing me. My belief, style, carriage, the things I did/do and enjoy are personable. These intricacies thrive beautifully not because I perfected an act but rather in light of the fact of being authentic. Each time the fear of being alone push me to fit in or belong to a group (family, society and influencer status), I remind myself that the beauty and freedom of being myself trump what people will say. Funny how people resonate with me just living in my elements. Even more than they do when I conform. So, why should I stiffen my boisterous laughter or tone down my love for colors and eccentric things?

authentic, women

No, Thanks! While I am by no means saying I won’t work on being a better human being who treats other people with respect, I appreciate my uniqueness.


Now, I realize that living boldly as a woman is not all about giving all of me away to satisfy others without any tiny piece of my own to nurture me back to life if I lose my sense of self-worth. That the temporary high of confidence that I feel when more people accept me for being the good girl. The one who does as the society teaches, to avoid a stigma, will no more work for me. I understand that to live boldly, I might find myself alone more often than I might like. It could mean that I have to give up the umbrella of risk-less gains that come with fitting in.

The power of being enough is something we own. Women are versatile entities capable of thriving outside just one form. Able to create the life we want and do so passionately and confidently regardless of fears.


This same energy helped me get a better understanding of something i struggled with creatively for a while. I finally found the strength to criticize myself, my work as a creative. Why I needed a platform and whether my Instagram is a collection of perfectly curated photos just for attention. Was I just another hungry person for insta-fame and blog clicks? Did I have any message that needs to get out there? I found my why by looking inward to answer the questions of what my intention is and what kind of content I’ll love to create.

how being yourself will give you clarity


I want to share the contents about my experiences of personal growth, about things that I love through personal style and inspiring conversation hoping it resonates with women and encourage them to live boldly. I look forward to creating content from this perspective and growing into more clarity and purpose. The fact that my message or content will not appeal to everybody is fine by me. My aim is to amplify my voice, create valuable content and build an engaging community of strong happy women.



  1. Queenet

    November 10, 2018 at 10:57 am

    Bennyyyyy!!!! Thank you for this post. Such an Amazing thing for me to read today. This is great. Thank you love.

    1. Benny Makachi

      November 11, 2018 at 9:01 am

      Thank you for reading. I appreciate your feedback. 💕


    November 10, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    I love how real you got with this post. T definitely has me looking back as to why I started this creative journey in the first place and if I’ve actually really influenced anyone. Glad to have you back my darling!

    1. Benny Makachi

      November 11, 2018 at 9:04 am

      It took me a long while to write this little piece you’ve read. Lol. I had to go inside for real and let things out as the are/were.
      Thank you so much. Yes, sometimes we miss the mark but going full circle allows us ask important questions about the “why”.

      It’s good to have you here too. ✨

  3. Anastesia.O

    November 10, 2018 at 12:14 pm

    Girl speak that truth. This is why I constantly talk about self awareness and living one’s truth. Keep being authentic.

    1. Benny Makachi

      November 11, 2018 at 9:05 am

      Self-awareness is a vital trait we should have. Thanks for reading. I hope it inspires you in one way or another as a creative. 🦋

  4. Amaka

    November 10, 2018 at 12:20 pm

    Welcome back ma’am! This post just has me thinking especially the aspect of Instagram and blog clicks.
    I want to be more of me and I hope that others will be too through your words. Thank you mami❤❤

    1. Benny Makachi

      November 11, 2018 at 9:09 am

      I’m glad it did. I hope you find the out how you can be more.
      Start by asking yourself what your intentions are and what kind of content you want to create. And don’t compare!


  5. Meilifisayo

    November 10, 2018 at 4:01 pm

    This is such a good read. I ask myself each time before I post on social why and what is the purpose of this post. Is it to entertain/funny, motivational, inspirational or educational. This helps me put my caption and blog post in check before it goes out.

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