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A Young Woman’s Guide: To Self-Care + Mindful Practices That Help Me Empower Myself.

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what is self-care?

 

Hey loves, ever asked yourself the meaning of Self-care? Well…To me, Self-care is a free-willed and purposeful exertion by one to recognize and support one’s self and the things that enhance the prosperity of one’s mind, body, and soul. It is a persistent, mindful routine with regards to love and generosity to self.

If you live in the present world, happen to be a millennial, or surf the web a lot then you’re most likely not an outsider to “Self-Care”. We carry on with a life of steady development, stages, and movement. People are dependably in the quest for something new (goals, adventure, career move, challenge, marriage and even food) and so on. During the time spent

achieving what is presently within reach and moving on to the one, we have a tendency to overlook the significance of an all-around focused self-care.

While the good and bad times of life can shift one-off balance, there is a need for us to check our energy, body, mind with a specific end goal to guarantee that we are filling ourselves the refreshment that is needed. Here are some self-care practices that I now enjoy.

 

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Treating and Speaking to Myself Affectionately.

 I said earlier that it is so vital to check our energies. This specific practice goads from an observation I made some time back. I saw that each time I talked nicely to myself or treated myself affectionately, my energy would turn out high and after that it would seem just as there was some crisp burst of life inside me. My mind starts to feel compensated so I end up mindful of my capacities and let go of annoying negative sentiments. To be clear, despite everything I laugh at my self or say things like ‘young lady, you’re stupid’ now and again when I am not taking myself too serious. A mind is a great instrument, over time the mind digests what it is told, installs it in the intuitive until the point that it turns into a conviction. I try my best to sustain my mind with significant affirmation until the point when it turns into that which it’s able to do. When I acknowledge and regard myself affectionately it fills in as an outline for others to copy from.

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Being Present In Every Step Of The Way.

Guys, I will be direct with all of you. Trust me, when I say this doesn’t come easy, it requires patience and practice. I’ll be the first to concede that growth doesn’t come as beautifully as I imagine, at times, growth is veiled as a hamper that transforms into a low blow the minute I excitingly start to unwrap it. For me, being present during the process of my life journey brings about mindfulness. In the time of self-awareness, I see nuances that occur. Normally, questions start to come up, and my mind instinctively starts the scan for the right response, the fascinating thing that happens is that I start to self-inspect to stand up to fears, check what influenced me to do awful or great before. Being present empowers me to experience the occasion, face the feelings of fear, anxiety or challenge. I take an inside excursion and think of the strength, and experience to work on. Being present is a self-care practice that provides me with the reinforcement needed to face what’s to come.

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Shedding myself of unnecessary pressure and expectation.

Honestly, I’m not exactly there yet but rather I give myself a pat on the back each time I see that I’m one less taken by other people’s’ expectations of me or the pressure by self, family or society to become and fit into the statuesque. I am a 26 years old lady who is not married and yet to achieve the life of my dreams. Of late, I’ve got the almighty “when are you going to get married/are you in a serious relationship” question a lot. It hit home when my mom who is not one to bother her kids about things like this sneakily chipped it in a discussion we had some time back.

Although, I was surprised and it obviously set off some concern. I was much more stunned that I didn’t spend a long time contemplating it, even till this minute that I compose this post. When people ask me this same question it surprises me how calmly and indifferently I answer them. Not because I wouldn’t want to marry an awesome man some day but because I have shed myself of whatever pressure or expectation that comes with getting married at a certain age. It’s the same way I feel when people judge me as useless for not having everything all figured out at 26 or being friends with people who are younger than I am.

I look at it this way, no one’s life ever goes 100% as he or she plan. There is no one approach to leading a successful life. I have successful friends who are older than I am in a similar vein, me having friends that I’m more established or older than doesn’t make me a trick. We can all get along regardless of age difference, life experience or race. Disposing of unnecessary pressure and expectations to me is one of the most profound demonstrations of self-care that I swear by.

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Me Time.

This is likely the most popular type of self-care out there and for clear reasons. I find solitary time rewarding, it’s when I get the chance to be myself, all me; inside out, riveting in what gives me joy. It could go from the seemingly simple things like, a mani-pedi, prayer, yoga, journaling, dancing to my favorite music barefoot and laying in bed practically the entire day to huge things like going on a relaxing trip, shopping, getting a full body massage and so on. One thing that is certain is how revived I feel in the wake of having an immersive personal time.

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Healthy Dose of Play

I once read someplace that creativity is intelligence playing. When we move toward becoming grown-ups we intentionally or unconsciously restrict ourselves from playing as a kid would, a few of us even enclosure our inner child. I have a bubbly personality; one thing that causes that personality to flourish is playing.

Playing brings me joy, ease, laughter and bright ideas in most cases. When I effectively convey what needs be innovatively by enlivening thoughts I had in an “aha” moment the satisfaction it brings me is extremely fulfilling.

I hope you enjoy this post as I enjoyed sharing these mindful self-care practices that empowers me with you all. Give it a try, if you have practiced any of these, let me know how it worked of you. Feel free to share and recommend me self-care tips. I’ll love to hear from you on Instagram. Please, do subscribe to my blog and share with loved ones.

 

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Love, Bennymakachi!

 

 

 

9 Comments

  1. Amaka

    July 11, 2018 at 4:45 pm

    I love it. The self-care practices that I carry out are more of shedding myself of unnecessary pressure and me time. I treat myself affectionately sometimes, I think I turn it up A notch.
    P.s Don’t stop being friends with us younger folks we love you alot❤.

    1. Benita Makachi

      July 26, 2018 at 4:36 pm

      Hello Amaka, thanks for reading. Im happy to know that you practice self-care however little. We learn everyday. I hope the tips you take out of this post comes in handy for you. Not to worry, I won’t stop being friends with people younger than me. love, Benny!

  2. COLLINS BADEWA

    July 11, 2018 at 6:03 pm

    I love that this post is from your perspective. It’s amazing how much self care can affect ones way of life and how important it is.

    1. Benita Makachi

      July 26, 2018 at 4:39 pm

      I agree. Self-care can have pivotal effects on ones life and mental health. That one of the gains of having a personal blog. One can share things from a personal perspective/experience.

  3. REAL TALK||GROWING UP + 5 QUOTES I LOVE AT THE MOMENT – LifeOfAmaka

    July 11, 2018 at 10:06 pm

    […] all what not. But like I always say “life is what you make out of it”, I read a post today by BennyMakachi on self-care and I must say it had me thinking and I realized the only self-care practices I carry out are […]

  4. Jolaade

    July 12, 2018 at 10:33 am

    I love love love the pictures 😍😍😍😍

  5. Lakatwoman

    July 12, 2018 at 1:56 pm

    Hi Benny!!
    First of ALL, i haven’t welcomed you back!
    I am so happy you are back to blogging regularly. THis post spoke to Me. Oftentimes we think self care is treating yourself. Though these are still very important, the keys you pointed out are essentials in selfLOVE. TO TREAT YOURSELF KINDLY AND AFFECTIONATELY IS SOMETHING I AM WORKING ON. I’M LEARNING TO ENJOYING MORE PLAY TIME AS WELL WHICH ALLOWS ME TO BE FULLY PRESENT IN THE MOMENT.

    BEAUTIFUL PICS AS ALWAYS.
    XOXO
    LAKATWOMAN

    1. Benita Makachi

      July 26, 2018 at 4:45 pm

      Hello Kat,

      its always so good to hear from you. I appreciate the welcome and support you show me. Thank you!
      I’m learning everyday that self-care goes beyond treating myself, too. It’s one of the reasons I decided to share this post and learn from others as well.

      I am so glad you enjoyed this post and took time to comment on it. The photos turned out just as I imagined. 🙂

      love, Benny!

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